6 Explosive Adult Toys for Beginners

If you have never known the joy of plastic, silicone, injection moulding, and what happens when you combine it all with a little whirring motor… you’re in for a treat! For those who have never experienced adult toys, it can be a strange and unusual world. Start small – here we look at some of the best toys for beginners.
 
Lubes and lotions

If you’ve never used a sex toy, it’s also highly possible you’ve never experienced the joy of lubricant… which makes everything that you’ve done dozens of times before magically feel heaps better! Go for cheap and easily available water-based lube, long-lasting silicone, or exotic warming and cooling lotions. Just make sure you use ‘protection’ for your

Lingerie

You know where your most powerful sexual organ is located… between your ears. And no, it isn’t your nose! Lingerie can help you see yourself, or your partner, in a different light, and is a gentle introduction to toys.

Cyberskin Toys

If you’re new to the idea of using things other than human bits in your playtime, Cyberskin is a fantastic way to start. It has an ultra-realistic feel, and isn’t necessarily as intimidating as glittery purple plastic!

Egg and Bullet Vibrators

These tiny little gems of joy are discreet and easy to use. Because egg and bullet toys are so small, they fit right in with whatever you’d usually do – just adding a little buzz to the experience. Most have varying speed levels built in… and if you’re into the ‘shared secret’ experience, you can also get remote control vibrating knickers or insertable eggs, which your partner can turn on and off at will while you’re out in public.

Cock rings

For guys that haven’t had much experience with sex toys, cock rings can be a great place to start. Choose a cock-only ring to start with, as opposed to a cock-and-balls ring. Cock rings will help you last a little longer and get more pumped up.

Dildo Vibrators

These toys combine the best of both worlds, both standard and vibrating stimulation. If you want to buy your first toy to last, choose a vibrating dildo!

Toys Aren’t Just for Kids – Why Adults Should Explore Toys in Their Love Lives

We love going to Toys R Us and of the toy stores, because the displays are just amazingly vibrant – all the counters and walls are draped with these bright, blazing primary colors with packages designed to capture the eye and hold your attention.

For us, it’s also fun going to couples’ stores where adult toys are sold, because the displays are strikingly the same, awash in primary colors with a few more bright pinks, reds and purples – though the imagery is typically far from family friendly.

We’re enthused that adult toys have become more mainstream, but we also know there are a lot of people out there who are reluctant to consider the use of what used to be called “marital aids” in their bedroom repertoire. Many couples won’t even set foot in an adult video or toy store for fear of what the neighbors might say, or just a feeling that those toys are only used by swingers or people obsessed with sex.

Well, having been sexologists for nearly a decade, we have a little news for you – your neighbors have probably already been there.

Toys can be a healthy and welcome addition to a couple’s bedroom practices, but we do understand the reasons why many people haven’t yet ventured behind the curtain to see what’s out there for them. So, we’ve assembled a few of the reasons we’ve heard over the years, with a slightly more enlightened view to counter them.

  • Only Dirty People Use Them – There is a sense, you could even call it a mild prudishness that some couples have regarding sex toys. We attribute that to the compressed conflict that is sexuality in America. We use sex to sell cars, beer, Web site domains (thanks for the cheesecake, GoDaddy!) and even corn chips, but we are reluctant to address our own sexuality with the same openness. Sex isn’t dirty, unless, of course, thinking of it as dirty is a turn-on for you. The truth is, sex is healthy, fun and downright necessary for a strong, long-term romantic relationship. Being ashamed of enjoying sex is like being ashamed of eating to us. It’s a normal, healthy human activity when performed by consenting adults. So, if sex isn’t dirty, neither are toys used to enhance the sexual experience. If you’ve never gone to an adult toy store, the initial imagery may be a little shocking, but if you go in with an open mind, you might actually find yourself having fun before you know it.
  • Toys Are Only for Masturbation – Over the years, as the sexual revolution took hold, women became empowered and chose to indulge their desires with or without a partner and stop being ashamed of their own sexuality. The sale and use of vibrators and other toys skyrocketed, and these toys became associated primarily with masturbation. But that is not their only function. In point of fact, many toys are far more effective and fun when they are wielded by a partner. Now, you don’t really need to be a sexologist to figure that out. A little basic geometry is all you need. When you compare the range of angles a woman can reach using her own arm to the range of motion by a partner who is correctly positioned, it’s clear that a partner can do a lot more with those toys to help a woman receive the full benefit of whatever implements she may have in the toy bag. In fact, many toys on the market today are specifically designed to be used by a partner and are practically useless for masturbation. So, wipe away that old connotation of toys. Some games are most definitely more fun when played by two.
  • Toys Will Replace Me as a Partner – As a tandem of the above concern, some partners are concerned that some toys may deliver sensations and experiences that just cannot be matched by simple human to human interaction, and they fear that the toys will replace them in bed. Granted, there are some toys that are very ingenuitive these days, from swivel-headed vibrators to the Sybian (think of a sit-down vibrator run by an outboard motor), and we completely understand how they can be a little intimidating. There has been many a partner who has had to peel a woman off the ceiling after experiencing some of the more innovative devices on the market. But a toy cannot replace the sexual dynamic that two people can achieve together. The largest and most important sexual organ in the human body is the brain, and no matter the horsepower of the toy involved, they have yet to market anything with the imagination and creativity of the human mind. By joining your partner in the enjoyment of toys, you will be an inextricable part of their sexual lives and your role will be secure as long as you share your hearts and your imaginations together.

So don’t be afraid. Minds work best when they are open. And so do toys, once they are out of the box and in your bedroom.

Drs. Chuck and Jo-Ann Bird

Using a Sex Toy With a Partner

There are many different types of adult toys available, so you and your partner are sure to find something that suits you both. Sex toys can add spice and excitement to the bedroom relationship, especially if you have been together for a long time. You don’t need to use toys every time you make love, but having a variety of them available to you can help you to both enjoy sex more often.

Sex toys often allow people to play out a fantasy with their partner. Some will enhance foreplay and others make the sexual orgasm experience more intense. You can choose sex toys that help you to play out a fantasy, such as a roleplay situation. Some toys give specific pleasure to men, others give pleasure to women and some are even unisex so that both partners can use the sex toy to give pleasure to each other.

Before you introduce a sex toy into your relationship, you should discuss it first with your partner. Make sure your partner feels as comfortable with the idea as you do. Discussing it first can help reduce any inhibitions and can add anticipation to the excitement mix. You can even shop online together for toys that you will both enjoy in your relationship.

Men often love a cock ring – a sex toy that fits snugly around the base of the man’s penis, heightening the sexual experience and making the man experience a deeper, longer lasting orgasm. Women who love to get clitoris stimulation will love a butterfly vibrator. This vibrator is more like a sex toy than a traditional vibrator, as the women wears it like a belt or attaches the straps to her thighs, leaving her hands free to play with her partner. The butterfly vibrator sits neatly onto the clitoris and leaves the vagina area free for penetration, so the man can penetrate the vagina while the woman enjoys continual clitoris stimulation, leading to multiple orgasms for the woman.

Lesbians will often use a dildo, giving the effect of vagina penetration without having all the disadvantages of having a man in the room. Other couples find that the man loves to use a dildo or vibrator to penetrate his woman while watching the waves of pleasure take her over as part of the foreplay. Using a sex toy like this gives the man full control and he can give pleasure to his woman without coming too soon himself and ruining the lovemaking experience. Vibrators often give women much pleasure and the partner can move the vibrator in and out of the vagina to tease the woman into enjoying the experience far more.

Sex toys are fun to use with consenting adults. They add spice, excitement, and interest to the lovemaking experience, as well as making multiple or deeper orgasms possible. Sex toys can make sex better for both partners.